Atheism Saved My Life Yesterday

My dogs don’t think about Heaven or Hell.

I didn’t either, until recently.

I have long been an atheist.

Not someone who knows there is no God.

I don’t know.

I am an atheist who finds insufficient evidence to believe there is a God.

In the same way I don’t find evidence that My Little Pony is real.

Many a non-believer, including me, would like to be wrong on this issue.

Fade to black after struggling a lifetime without success to find meaning in this experience

Is, well, unfulfilling.

But, if I was certain there was a God and a heaven

Yesterday

And the recently deceased love of my life was there

Waiting

And that a short pull of a trigger would put us together again

BLAM!

So I guess I have atheism to thank for living a little longer

For this madhouse

Not knowing what comes next

In this fog of eventuality.

Or maybe a Jehovah Witness will stop by when I’m naked and drunk

And talk me into believing.

BLAM!

A more likely result is I will keep plodding

When all seems

Truly helpless

Meaningless

Heavenless

But not being sure.

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